Roses are Red Violets are Blue I don’t need anything because I have YOU!
As I write that I can’t believe how much truth is in that cheesy statement. Four Valentine’s ago I asked this guy I was talking to on tinder to spend Valentine’s day with me because I didn’t want to spend it alone. I had a boyfriend at the time but he told me he didn’t want to spend Valentine’s together. I was pretty upset and didn’t want to spend the whole day dwelling on the fact that my boyfriend didn’t want to spend Valentine’s with me. I thought about it for awhile and out of spite I decided to ask this guy who had been messaging me on Tinder to spend Valentine’s with me in Kernville, just as friends. I had a tiny compact car and was too scared to drive the canyon alone but I wanted to go to Whiskey Flats days and I figured this was the perfect opportunity and I wouldn’t have to go alone. I never did anything daring or spontaneous so getting in the car with this complete stranger was a totally new experience. He had just moved to California from Hawaii so he wasn’t familiar with anyone or anything, it was definitely a risk. He picked me up that afternoon and we drove up the canyon to Whiskey Flat days. We talked the whole way sort of getting to know each other. The crazy part of that drive thinking back was there wasn’t any awkward silence. We actually started a debate about what color my headband was. We are both competitive so once we got to the festival we decided to walk around and ask people their opinion on the color of my headband and see who was right. I don’t remember the score or who won that little game but I do remember how much fun I had with it. He was unlike anybody I had ever been out with. He was so confident, outgoing, silly he didn’t put on some act. He wasn’t trying for anything, and for the first time in a long time I felt like I could be me. We spent that whole festival walking and talking about anything and everything. I was just so comfortable with this complete stranger and he never judged me on anything I said or wanted to do, he just willingly did it. One part of that day that stands out in my mind is we went into this saloon. I saw that they had karaoke which was my favorite thing! I mentioned it to Sky, just casually, and he asked if I wanted to stay and sing. Of course I did! I couldn’t believe he even offered. It was late at that point and karaoke hadn’t started just yet. I knew he still had to drive back and had work the next day even though it would be so late by the time we came back home. He knew I wanted to sing so he said let’s stay. That was the first time any guy had ever done something simply just because they knew it would make me smile. He sang karaoke with me & he danced with me. Some guy even bought me a drink and he didn’t get jealous or mad. Which is the reaction I was so used to. It might have been his charm, or the song that was playing in the saloon, could be that it was Valentine’s day, maybe it was the fact that he was so willing to do whatever I wanted, perhaps it was the liquid courage but whatever the reason, I kissed him. I kissed him In front of everyone in that packed saloon. Craziest part, P.D.A. was NEVER my thing. Kissing on a first date was not something I did, I had a boyfriend, AND I only knew this man at that point for a total of 10 hours. I didn’t even know his middle name! I remember afterwards being embarrassed especially when he was so surprised that I kissed him. We went out on to the balcony and talked a little more – I don’t remember about what. This time he kissed me out there under the stars. It was the perfect night and the perfect Valentine’s.
Every day since with that man has been just as great. We go to bed laughing almost every night. I think in the past 3 years we have had maybe 3 fights. He’s the exact same person I fell in love with and everything is just as great now as it was in the beginning. I often see women complaining about things their significant other does or doesn’t do that bothers them. The only thing I can come up with about Sky is he doesn’t use his blinker. Darn Utah driver lol. But seriously he brings out the best in me. He’s an amazing dad to Carson. He’s constantly doing things just because they make me smile. We are lucky in the sense that it doesn’t matter what we do, what we have or don’t have in life. We are happy just having each other. I don’t think a lot of couples can say that. Coming home to him is the favorite part of my day. I’m so happy we get to spend another Valentine’s together!